One of the hardest things to do is to give to those who have hurt us, especially when they are family. We’re told that charity begins at home, but what happens when “home” is filled with past hurts, disrespect, or ungratefulness? Why should we extend kindness to family members who don’t seem to care about us?

I’ve wrestled with this myself—questioning why I should be generous toward people who have been unkind or indifferent. My initial response has often been anger and frustration. But when I take a step back and process these feelings, I’ve realized something deeper: those who are unkind, disrespectful, or unloving are often stuck in their own pain. They act out of their limitations, not because of anything I’ve done.

And here’s the truth: I don’t want to be like that. I don’t want bitterness or resentment to define who I am. I’ve chosen to be different—to be generous, kind, and compassionate even when it feels undeserved. Not because it’s easy, but because it’s the right thing to do.

It’s much simpler to give to strangers or causes that don’t carry emotional baggage. But the real test of charity is giving to those closest to us, even when it’s hard. Family relationships often come with layers of hurt, misunderstandings, and old grievances. Yet, when we choose to give—whether it’s our time, forgiveness, patience, or resources—we do something profound. We soften our own hearts.

Yes, it’s frustrating at times. Giving to those who’ve hurt us doesn’t always feel rewarding in the moment. But do it anyway. Give because it’s the right thing to do. Give because God sees your heart, and the blessings will come back to you in ways you can’t imagine.

Charity begins at home not because it’s easy, but because it challenges us to grow. When we rise above past hurts and give generously to those who’ve wronged us, we aren’t just helping them—we’re transforming ourselves. And in doing so, we open the door for greater blessings and a deeper sense of peace.