For years, I wrestled with finding true, authentic relationships. I was stuck in a cycle of attracting people and opportunities that weren’t right for me, from friends and partners to career paths and business ventures. The relationships I found myself in felt empty, lacking the depth and honesty I craved. But what I now realize is that this struggle wasn’t just about the people I attracted—it was a reflection of my own inner state.

There’s a truth I’ve come to understand: we don’t attract what we want; we attract who we are. When I was disconnected from my spiritual self, I naturally gravitated toward others who were also out of sync with their own inner truth. I focused on developing my mind and body, ignoring the spiritual aspect that brings wisdom and clarity to every choice we make. Without this connection to my inner calling, I lacked the wisdom to discern who truly belonged in my life.

Looking back, I see how this lack of spiritual alignment affected my choices. I pursued friendships with people who lived unauthentic lives, and I entered relationships with men who were disconnected from their inner selves. My career choices were no different—bad jobs, misguided business ventures, and partnerships that ultimately fell apart. These connections led to disappointment and struggle, leaving me questioning my own ability to find true happiness and success.

Only after I started embracing my spiritual side—through prayer, meditation, and introspection—did I begin to see a change. Developing my spiritual practices has helped me tune into the wisdom within. It has taught me to be patient, to wait for the right relationships and opportunities, and to recognize when something or someone is in alignment with my authentic self. This internal wisdom has allowed me to avoid those empty friendships, inauthentic partners, and misguided professional choices that once filled my life.

The reality is, authentic relationships come from within. They require us to be connected to ourselves first. When we’re not, we risk entangling ourselves with people who lack wisdom, who live disconnected lives, and who ultimately aren’t able to support us in our own growth.

If you’re struggling to find meaningful connections, I encourage you to pause and look within. Cultivate a strong spiritual practice, listen to your inner wisdom, and let that guide your choices. You’ll find that the more in tune you are with your own spirit, the more authentic relationships you’ll attract. It’s a journey, but one that brings not only the right people into your life but also a deeper sense of peace and purpose.