I recently found myself ensnared by the charms of a narcissistic aesthetic doctor. She lured me into her clinic with sweet talk and false sensitivity—classic narcissist tactics. What should have been a professional interaction turned into a nightmare. In hindsight, the empty waiting room devoid of patients and red flags were glaring. I mean, no self-respecting doctor should call their patients “babe” or “darling,”

From the start, she failed to inform me of the downtime involved in the laser procedure I underwent. My skin condition deteriorated post-treatment, and when I voiced my concerns, she dismissed every single one of them. There was no remorse, no empathy, no openness to feedback—just cold indifference.

When I wrote an honest Google review about my experience, she didn’t take it well. Instead of addressing the issue, she tried to sue me for defamation, turning an already painful situation into a drawn-out legal battle. It’s a classic narcissist move: using legal threats to exhaust their adversaries emotionally and financially. This doctor was no different, dragging out the refund process for over a year with endless deflection tactics. She settled swiftly after, my lawyers threatened exposure of other patient complaints against her clinic made to the Health Ministry.

John Banjo, in his book “Medical Errors and Medical Narcissism”, discusses how some health professionals, in their need to preserve their egos, refuse to disclose errors or accept responsibility. Narcissistic doctors lack empathy, and when confronted, they deflect, accuse, or even play the victim—just like I was accused of being toxic, dishonest, and mentally unstable in her legal letters to me.

A doctor with narcissistic personality disorder is quick to threaten legal action, all while continuing to spread lies about the patient. This splits public opinion, often leaving the victim accused of poor behavior rather than being supported.

Narcissism, at its core, is an obsession with self-importance and control. A narcissistic doctor can’t handle feedback because it threatens the inflated self-image they’ve carefully constructed. What I encountered was a woman consumed by narcissistic rage, manifested in her attempt to sue me for speaking the truth.

Medical narcissists often put more effort into their public image than their practice. They’re quick to post selfies and boast on social media, not for patient care, but to elevate themselves and attract monetary gain, whether through business, romantic partners, or social validation. A truly great doctor wouldn’t need to rely on social media—they’d be too busy serving their patients.

I actually feel really sorry for Doctors who lack authenticity. They have gotten away from their true selves which is to have a “heart” for their patients. Money instead has become a driving factor. This is where the medical profession loses its essential humanity..