Many of us grow up feeling unworthy of the good things life offers. Whether it’s a loving relationship, a dream job, or simply treating ourselves kindly, this pervasive sense of unworthiness can hold us back. This deep-seated belief often originates in childhood, where caregivers might have inadvertently instilled the notion that we don’t deserve love or happiness.

When caregivers are dismissive of our feelings, overly controlling, or consistently negative, it sends a powerful message: “You don’t matter.” Statements and actions meant to discipline can inadvertently tell a child they are undeserving. Over time, these messages crystallize into a core belief of unworthiness, affecting every aspect of our lives.

As adults, these feelings of unworthiness can become significant barriers in our relationships. When someone tries to love us, we might find it difficult to accept. Genuine love can feel alien, something we didn’t experience growing up. This unfamiliarity can lead to self-sabotage, as we push away those who try to care for us, believing deep down that we are undeserving.

Similarly, opportunities in our professional lives can be hindered by these feelings. We might believe we deserve a great job, but our fears and self-doubt prevent us from pursuing it. The same goes for simple acts of self-care; we struggle to do nice things for ourselves because we don’t feel worthy.

Healing from these feelings of unworthiness requires confronting their origins. It involves revisiting the painful experiences of our childhood and acknowledging the trauma caused by caregivers who failed to provide the love and validation we needed. By understanding where these feelings come from, we can begin to tell ourselves—and the inner child still carrying that pain—that we are indeed worthy of love and happiness.

This process is not easy, but it is essential. Until we heal the child within who was told they were not worthy, we cannot fully move forward. Embrace the journey of self-discovery and healing. Affirm to yourself that you are deserving of love, happiness, and all the good things life has to offer. Every single one of us is worthy, and recognizing this truth is the first step toward breaking free from the chains of unworthiness and living a life filled with love and fulfillment.